How To Open A Successful Dating Profile And Live To Tell

My older brother was divorced a while ago. He is from another generation, when WhatsApp, Facebook, and the various dating sites and apps were quite new, he was already married. After he got divorce he didn’t know what to do. Girls would mumble awkwardly in front of him as he tried to develop a conversation in bars, not really knowing how to react when a stranger man approach them directly. Then he didn’t understand why women prefer “talk” through text   rather than talking on the phone.

I remember he would run to my room to make sure if an emoji of some kind is needed in the texts.
Even when he opened a dating profile, and until he met his new (amazing) wife, he was confused and did not quite understand how it worked. One moment a girl answers you, one  minute later she disappears and then  answers you after a week.
I would sit with him and show him my profile, explaining that girls are always overwhelmed with messages and cannot always follow all of them.

I think many people who are on dating sites miss the initial goal for registering at the first place.
This was also one of the reasons I gave myself why I should not open a dating profile.
As if the competition is too hard for both sides: there is always someone smarter, funnier, prettier and so on. And that’s how we get confused.

In the previous post I wrote about the shame and fear surrounding the search for amate and today I thought it was right to write how to survive dating sites and finding someone who suits you.

You have opened a dating profile, well that’s great, but it’s not enough. How does it look like?  Did you write about yourself?

Not Perfect

 People have the tendency to put their best pictures on a dating site. My suggestion? Don’t.
Upload some of your regular photos, which you might not put as your Facebook profile picture. The worst thing that can happen is that the people you go out with will be pleasantly surprised, and it’s much nicer to get face-to-face feedback, than to get a full-fledged dating profile without any results.

Why writinga lot about ourselves is important?

Personally, I think it is very important! Dima didn’t write anything: Engineer and height. That’s it. And he was wrong about the height.
I think that when you write something amusing, it makes the other person to get to know you more, and I love those serious ones I met, who made me yawn and understand that with them no interesting correspondence would ever develop and certainly not a date like “I’m a serious man, ready for a serious relationship, and generally I love life” Well pal, I’m glad for you that you don’t have any suicidal tendencies, but you are heavy and depressing.
When someone writes real things with absolute sincerity, you can see it and relate to it much more. When I read something that makes me smile I want more. Take time, invest in you’re writing.
When we invest time and energy in something, we feel more committed to it.

Do not chat with more than 2-3 people at the same time.

What’s the logic? “enough is as good as a feast “.
Girls’ dating profiles are often flooded; countless messages. It can easily reach hundreds. And I’m not exaggerating. Especially when a girl opens an entirely new profile.
And that’s very confusing, try to stay focused: we can always find “a better man”, exactly like they can always find a “better woman”- none of us is perfect, so don’t seek perfection. Seek a perfect match for you.
You made a summon and a list– now try to reach it. Speak to three and go out with one.
And if he is not suitable for you, date the other ones.
If none of them is right for you, choose another three guys, and so on.
Dima was the second to send me a message – so, although he did not write much about himself, I answered him. Because that’s what I defined to myself.

I hope this list will help you set up a good dating profile and help you to find the right partner for you. In the next post I’ll write about dating, and how uncomfortable it can be and how you can make it much better.